If grief stalls your MLM business, reach out to your team to support you in keeping the momentum going. With that support, you will be able to honor the loved one. July and December are difficult times for me. I lost my mom in July and my dad in December. With neither of them did I get the opportunity to grieve fully at the time. This story is how I used my grief to turn my network marketing into a success.
My mom had been a smoker most of her adult life. She had tried to quit on several occasions of which I was aware and it never became her habit. She swore to me that she would not die like her mom of emphysema. To be honest, I never believed she would quit.
Moving to Florida and away from her smoking buddies in Chicago, I thought it might be possible (and did not hold my breath). When I visited my parents in Florida, there was no smoking paraphernalia anywhere in the house. I was amazed until she took me to Women’s Coffee. It turned out she did not smoke in front of my dad, but her friends held a pack of cigarettes for her and brought them to Coffee so she could indulge. Tearfully, she asked me not to tell my dad. I guess I was complicate in her slowing killing herself. I just knew it was not something she would change and that the damage was done to her lungs already. I didn’t know how true that was.
When I was pregnant with my eldest daughter, my mom prophetically told me that she would not live to see her granddaughter born. I thought she was crazy – of course she would see Jen born. She was so right; she died in July and Jen was born in September. None of us realized how far gone she was. Her lungs were like lace such that even the lung cancer cells had virtually no tissue to hang on.
So what does all this have to do with network marketing?
Many years later as I finally took the time and energy to go through the 5 stages of grief for my mom, I threw myself into my network marketing business and created the momentum that brings a successful business and team. There was no need for denial as that was pretty clear. I used my anger of how and when she died to fuel accomplishing the steps in my plan to develop a team that had low attrition.
I think there was a bit of depression here as well. Except instead of seeing it as “I’m going to die soon so what’s the point?” I used being saddened by the certainty of death to want to leave a living legacy for my family, no matter when I might die.
What I found, was that I loved what I was doing, loved the people I was attracting, loved teaching them how to retain rather than recruit, and loved the dreams that we all were realizing. I used my grief as fuel to break loose from the mediocrity that was my network marketing business and drove the momentum necessary to leave a legacy of which I am proud.
I know that it does not take significant loss to turn your network marketing business into the success you want it to be. Yet, because I learned so much about what fuels our strongest desires, I teach The Art of Herding Cats: Leading Teams of Leaders. The skills I teach were born out of this reflective time so you don’t have to go through it yourself. You already have amazing team members and future leaders. Do you know what drives them? Do you know what they may be going through in their personal lives? Build deep relationships with your team and watch your business soar. Call them – have that conversation with them. Maybe if someone had called me, it would not have taken so long to realize. Join me!
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Linda Patten, MBA, BSN, RN has over 30 years of experience leading women to success in building and achieving their dreams. She turns networking marketing women from product sellers to leaders of highly functioning teams. To learn more about her innovative programs, click on Contact Us.