Once upon a time, I used my leadership to get out of playing golf forever. Here is my story.
My husband is an avid golfer. When we were young, he had a single digit handicap which means he was serious and good at the game. As young marrieds, he thought this would be a great sport for us to do together. To play 18 holes, it takes about 4-6 hours and can be a lovely walk in the park until you get serious. Then, it becomes this #%&*@ game. For someone who has little hand and eye coordination, I thought golf might be the answer to a sport I could do besides swimming. I mean how difficult can it be to strike a ball that is just sitting there waiting to be hit and put it into a hole that is again just waiting for the ball to drop into. It turns out that every little thing can cause that ball to go places you never intended. In fact, my ball had a strong affinity for water, too.
We played as a couple for about 10 years even while I was pregnant with my first daughter. Imagine trying to swing around a 10 pound, 5.5 ounce baby bump. In fact, Jen was on the golf course when she was 9 months old. We took her and my dad for a vacation on Maui. There are pictures on Facebook of her in her car seat on the golf cart. With a baby, my time at the golf course became intermittent. Then, I got pregnant – AGAIN!
It was at this time that I started to rethink my love of golf. In addition, I was looking at the cost of the greens fee, cart fees, and babysitting for two children. It was too much for something that I didn’t love deeply. So, what do I do – my husband had been delighted that I joined him on the course. This is what I did.
We were out on the 12th hole, the farthest hole out on the course. I asked him the following question: Do you inhale or exhale on your back swing? For him, his swing was unconscious. I just asked him to bring it to consciousness and break it down into bit-sized pieces. He took me seriously and tried to figure it out – over the next 3 holes he took 2 more swings that normal (Double Bogey). We have never played again. In fact, he so remembers this that when he brings up golf for our retirement, I ask him: inhale or exhale. Oh, yeah, he says.
So, how can you use leadership skills to never play golf again – Find the skill that is done totally from the unconscious and drop it into the conscious mind. It will drive the golfer crazy. This also works in helping your team members to change unconscious behavior that is no longer working for them.
I teach The Art of Herding Cats: Leading Teams of Leaders for just this reason. When your followers get into robotic mode where they don’t even know what they are saying to new prospects or to their team, their habit needs to be disrupted. By getting them look at the steps that have become an unconscious habit that may no longer serve them and their team, change can be made with new skills that will move the team forward into the vision. I can teach you the skills to make that happen. Join me!
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Linda Patten, MBA, BSN, RN has over 30 years of experience leading women to success in building and achieving their dreams. She turns networking marketing women from product sellers to leaders of highly functioning teams. To learn more about her innovative programs, click on Contact Us.